Love Shouldn't Be a Compromise

Everybody always says that love is a compromise. There are always going to be things the two of you don’t agree with, so you’ll just have to meet somewhere in the middle. But, why is this the way it has to be? If we’re constantly meeting in the middle, then we’re never going to be happy with our life, and, honestly, we’re going to end up resenting the person we used to love because their dreams and wishes are holding us back from our own.

            It’s easy to want to change your life around for someone that you love. All you want is for them to be happy, so the compromises don’t seem that hard to make. But, you need to take a step back and be selfish for a moment. You need to realize that, at the end of the day, this person is getting in the way of your own happiness, which is equally as important as theirs. You may think that they are all you need to be happy in life, and in that moment, they might be. But once you’ve been together, and the exciting, happy-all-the-time feelings have subsided, you will realize that that might not be the case. You need more in your life than just another person to make you happy.

            I don’t say this because I think that love is overrated, and I’m not trying to convince you to never fall in love; love is a great thing and I can’t wait for the day that I meet the person I will love forever. But, I think that the person you are supposed to love, that God made especially for you, will want all (well, at least most) of the same things you want out of life. If you constantly have to compromise for this person, or they have to compromise for you, then I don’t think they’re the person you’re supposed to end up with. Both of your lives will be full of choices, and no matter which choice you make, neither of you are going to be 100% happy.

            When someone is right for you, they will want the same lifestyle as you, it’s as simple as that. You shouldn’t have to change your values, ideas, and goals because of another person. The person that you’re supposed to spend your life with will share your dreams and wishes, they won’t make you compromise them. I think a lot of people need to realize that. As sad as it is, a lot of people settle for a life time of compromises and hard choices. They chose love over their life because they think that love is enough. I think it’s a good thing to choose love, but not when it forces you to give up your own dreams and the lifestyle you want.